Tuesday, March 27, 2007

I'm getting married!

And this is who I'm getting married to! Isn't he cute?!

This is us on one of our easier hikes the day we got engaged.


This is the view from another easy hike we did that day. The view is amazing!


And here's the view from the top of Angel's Landing. I took this shortly after Chad proposed. This view is absolutely breathtaking.


This is the view I was looking out on when Chad said my name and I turned around to see him on his knee!



It was really really windy up there!

This is the last part of the hike--we were on the far side of the peak when he proposed. I'm so brave!

The last week and a half has been packed with wedding plans. We already have the temple booked, the places for the reception and luncheon booked, a photographer hired, a date set to take our engagement pictures, our registry list completed at two different stores, and I've made some good progress in wedding dress shopping. And Chad's address list for invitations is almost complete! We've met with someone about food, cake, flowers, and decorations at the reception place. And we are making a lot of progress when it comes to bridesmaids dresses. Not to mention I already have my ring! :)

In the midst of all this planning, I have felt tempted to stress over the little things. Over how things will look, how things will turn out, all there is to be done! I have to continually remind myself that these things are not what is important, and that Heavenly Father will help everything important fall into place. Because some things will inevitably go wrong during the wedding celebrations, but if we stay close to the Lord, nothing eternally significant will go wrong.
Tonight I especially felt the need to stop and ponder about why I'm doing all this. Why all the fuss over this wedding? What is the purpose behind all of it--the flowers, the dresses, the cake? As I did, my thoughts turned to marriage, and the transcendent beauty of it. All this planning is to celebrate the coming together of two individuals, the coming together of two families, the creation of a new family. It is not a show. It is simply a celebration. And stress really spoils the purpose of celebration, so I'm going to try really hard to not stress! I'm going to try to enjoy it and carry the spirit of excitement and delight inherent in such a happy time.

As I was thinking about marriage, and about how excited I am to be married to Chad, I decided to jot my feelings out into a poem, and I thought I'd share it with you.
Into Forever

I’m marrying a lifetime of new music
Music that I can dance to, worship with, and listen to in the backdrop of my dreams.
And there will also be forlorn music, music that I will cry to, but grow by as well.
Glorious music I’ve never heard before.

I’m marrying a lifetime of security.
Security in a beautiful home with a trustworthy husband.
And we’ll grow a garden in the backyard and make bread in the kitchen.
And at the end of the day, we’ll have someone to come home to who cares.

I’m marrying a lifetime of risk.
Untold adventures to places I’ve never been before.
Like the Grand Canyon, South America, maybe even Asia!
And someday…parenthood.

I’m marrying a lifetime of lessons.
Lessons on who I am, and who God intends me to be.
I’ll learn more about how the world works, and what the human experience is about.
And hopefully I will learn well the lessons on how I can enrich both.

I’m marrying a boundless family.
A family that is eternal in size and time and scope.
A family that stretches out in all directions
And influences the destiny of the universe.

I’m marrying a man.
But not just the man I see today, but the man he will be in the eternities.
He will be my friend, my lover, my partner, my confidant, my to-have-and-to-hold
Into forever.

I share this with you as a declaration of the purpose behind all these wedding plans. Hopefully by sharing this I will be more empowered to live it! Wish me luck!

8 comments:

Shana said...

Wow Abbi, What a wonderful poet you are! Thanks for sharing it! I am so excited for you. You & Chad look so much alike and have the same smile. Your babes will be so adorable! I can't wait to hear more about the plans... I know it is in the Manti Temple... But where is your reception???
How much fun!! And stressful... and yes, it is hard to not get stressed. That is why when I married Jake I didn't go through all of the fuss. And you know what? It was even better!!!! :) So just relax and you know that no matter what, it will be beautiful!

Jessi said...

Abbi, that is beautiful. You bring tears to my eyes. Marriage is the most wonderful and significant decision we make in life, and when it is a marriage solemized in the temple the purpose behind it is almost inconceivable. You are blessed to already understand what's important. Don't stress about the festivities. The moments you will want to remember will be what takes place in the temple.

Crystal said...

I told Chad that my favorite part of my wedding day was the temple. To be across from the man you love and will learn to love more and more. You also have in that room your closest friends and supporting family making vows that will last forever. It was amazing. The next favorite was the luncheon. To be the center of attention for one meal is huge when you come from a large family :) It was neat to hear such wonderful words of love from your family and know how much they truly care about you. The reception was nice. I loved seeing my community and ward, but it made me realize where my joy really would be found. It would be first with my husband as we live up to the covenants we have made with our Heavenly Father, second with my family, and third with others around me. I was so glad to learn that lesson that day. I am sooooooo excited for you!

P.S. I think Aunt Sue has some competition. Your poem was amazing.

Michelle said...

Abbi, you said it beautifully and truthfully. You know the importance of eternal marriage and the commitment you are entering into, not only with Chad, but with your Father in Heaven. You are an amazing girl and will be an incredible wife and mother. I am glad you are trying not to stress on the little things. Like I said before, focus on the Temple and the feelings there and the Sealing Ceremony and the counsel and words that are spoken there. You will never get to experience that again, but in only in your thoughts and memories. So take it all in!

Michelle Pyne said...

Beautiful pictures, beautiful couple, beautiful words!

Chris said...

Congratulations Abbi!!! I'm too happy for you. I can't wait for the celebration of your life together. You make a darling couple.
Love,
Aunt Chris

Audra said...

You are so wise, Abbi. There is no need to stress. Remind yourself when you feel the stress coming on. Like others have said, the best part of the wedding is in the temple where none of the other stuff is important. All the other celebrations are for fun and you will enjoy them, but nothing like the ceremony in the temple. I cannot wait to be in the temple with you and your husband!

Audra said...

P.S. You are doing a wonderful job of planning, by the way! I LOVE the dress! I LOVE the ring! And you will have beautiful pictures! All the "fun stuff" will be beautiful!